So often we associate feeling sexy with a special someone, and consequently, people forget how invigorating the actual emotion and feeling can be. In fact, feeling sexy for yourself is often more empowering and more exhilarating. There’s literally no better feeling, than feeeeeeeling yourself. To help you rediscover your sexy side, here are five self-love practices that’ll give you a serious confidence boost so that you can bring out your inner Beyoncé.
1. Spritz your favorite fragrance
Whenever we’re getting ready and we feel like we need a little confidence boost, we immediately gravitate towards our perfume stand. A quick spritz of perfume can be so invigorating and is scientifically proven to awaken your sensual side. Scents stimulate nerve endings at the back of your nose, which ignites the limbic system – the area of our brain that’s responsible for our behavior, emotions, and our libido, aka our sex drive. There are particular scents that are more potent than others, for example, the tropical flower Ylang-Ylang energizes both men and women. Similarly, vanilla is another sexy scent that has been used as a natural aphrodisiac for centuries. Check out other scents that turn men on here.
2. Schedule in some me time
Whenever we’re feeling sluggish, we like to schedule in some serious TLC. Put on some vibey music (basically anything Beyoncé), and take some time to make yourself feel sexy, with only yourself in mind. There’s something extremely empowering when you dress with only yourself in mind: it breeds confidence, which in turn exudes sex appeal. So you’ll feel good whether you rock a red lip or put on some lacey underwear and dance around – which btw, is a major mood booster, as dancing releases endorphins and serotonin in your brain (the happy hormones). It’s also believed that people who are more comfortable in the nude have better body image. Oh, and never forget the power of a good freakum dress!
3. Have a sensory pamper session
Engaging in a sensory experience (other than the obvious) can be extremely empowering, and can make you feel sexy AF. By taking the time to appreciate your own sense of touch, you’ll begin to feel more in tune and more at ease with your body. Plus, it can be a great addition to a pampering session or after a bath. We like to moisturize with a body oil, taking time to massage the oil into our skin – it’s not just great for our skin, but your mind too. This will help you de-stress and can even help drain toxins from your body, so you’ll not only feel more connected to your body, but you’ll feel invigorated. Another sensory experience that we love is dry brushing, which boosts lymphatic drainage, the process that eliminates harmful toxins from the body. It’ll exfoliate and smooth the skin too, helping reduce the appearance of cellulite. Find out more deets on dry brushing here.
4. Try something new
Our daily routine can get so hectic; rushing in between, work, friends, and family that we forget to schedule in time for new activities. So often socializing revolves around catching up with our squad and discussing daily dramz, which can actually be pretty draining. Instead, why not try something you’ve never done before? It can be something simple like trying a new cuisine, going to a painting class, or a crazy activity like acrobatics.
Whatever it is, by engaging in a new activity, the fear of the unknown will release endorphins and adrenalin in your brain. In a recent study by the NIH, they concluded that trying new activities weekly boosted positivity and self-worth. Doing this activity with your bestie is also said to heighten the experience as when you partake in a new activity with someone it acts as a bonding experience.
5. Practice self-love
The practice of self-love and self-appreciation is so simple yet SO powerful. There are tons of studies that show how it increases positivity and makes you a happier, more confident person, and what’s sexier than confidence? In a recent study by Psychology Today, self-love was said to improve productivity, strength, and decrease depression.
So, the next time you’re getting ready, or even while you’re sipping your cup of tea in the morning, take the time to list five things you like about yourself. It doesn’t have to be a physical attribute, although it can be – anything from your curly hair to your sense of humor. Check out this post for five other things to do in the morning, to have the best day ever or have a listen to this…
Let us know what makes you feel sexy in the comments below.